Need some help...
My 6 year old was stung Monday evening by a black wasp/hornet twice, once on his thigh and once on a finger. I put baking soda and water on to draw the stingers out. Slight redness and no swelling that night; Tuesday morning, red, itchy, very slight swelling; Tuesday Night, mild swelling, red, itchy. Today, red is spreading (up and down his leg), it's swelling to the point it's hard, had a white spot (like a pimple) on it that burst open and pushed the stinger out I assume...his finger is now twice the normal size.
He has been stung once before and no reaction what-so-ever to it, so I had my fingers crossed that he wasn't allergic like me (each time, it's been a worse reaction). He has a slight fever, no headache or body aches, no swelling through the face, no trouble breathing.
I have looked online, some places say soap and water, others say no water as that will cause it to spread; some places say ice packs, others say vinegar. A few pages have said it can last 3-5 days. Some have said a garlic clove and others an onion. You get the picture, each place has something different to say but they all agree on one thing, hospital.
I really do not want to take him to the hospital, a severe allergic reaction would have occurred within the first 10 minutes. I have never gone to the hospital for a sting, and I've had some BAD reactions...I don't know what they would give him or anything and I wouldn't be able to pull it up and figure out what it is before they tried to treat him (I don't trust doctors at the hospital).
I have no idea which website to go by and I am not using my child like a guinea pig testing different things out. So would someone on here, that knows a bit about a black hornet/wasp stings tell me what will work to bring the swelling down and evict whatever poison is in there out?
I've always just suffered through it and its been years since I've been stung so can't remember what was used if anything.
Thanks!

Bad for your son Sorry to hear it.

I may be jumping the gun but I doubt there is anyone here that can offer any definitive advice tbh. It would just be another site offering opinion.
That said, I'll offer my opinion. I think you are right that if he was to suffer a severe allergic reaction, it would have happened in the first few minutes. It does sound as though he is just suffering after effects of what is a pretty strong poison. But I urge caution in discounting the medical option and also caution in listening to anything us lot may have to say on such a subject.

hey, i told cantata to use plantains on her mosquito bites. dunno how well it worked for her. but twice i have been stung, one time i chewed tobacco and put it on, the other i tried chewing platain and putting it on and it worked to get rid of the pain.
sorry for your sprout. maybe antihistamines like benadryl would help him rid the swelling.

I have far more trust for people on here than I do for the morons at the local hospital (these people literally have to wear hazmat to deliver a baby, and blow an artery to put a stint in a heart...not people I'd trust with my own life let alone my sons).
My reactions have been within the first 10 minutes, and I know I'm allergic... that's part of what confuses me here, his reaction was a delayed one and is no where near what I've had.

A real good light and a magnifying glass is your best friend in this,sometimes a wasp stings goes deep and part of it can break off when removal is attempted,A little pair of tweezers and maybe a small pin may work better be sure to clean them first with a alcohol wash,and then gently move the tiny hole sting open so you can see if part of the stringer is still in there first off before you attempt to remove anything.A normal reaction is swelling,people who are allergic have more severe reactions that happen sooner.
Look before you explore for sure and be very gentle and take your time

Re-reading the Op, it does seem concerning that the swelling has gotten to the point that a couple of days after the bites, his finger is twice the size. The fact the swelling is persisting so long and actually getting worse does rather make me want to encourage you to seek medical advice, although I appreciate your concerns about that.

In all likelihood its an infection at the site or large production of antibodies.
It needs draining and antibiotics probably.

Thanks everyone!

Am gonna look it over closer, try taking him to the fireworks tonight since he really wants to go and keep him off his feet and keep it elevated some...would try chewing tobacco but I don't chew and unless I can chew a cigarette up have to wait til tomorrow to get any. And if it continues to get worse by the time he gets up in the morning I am gonna call the midwife and get a recommendation to a non-Americanized doctor. He doesn't seem to be having any trouble, except the swelling, redness, itching and he says the thigh is tender. If it gets worse tonight I'll take him into the ER, along with my laptop (or steal one of theirs) to look up whatever medication they want to test out. He's never taken antibiotics or even tylenol, so his system is clean of any pharmaceuticals.

Again thank you!