Was just having a poke kmobmeup.

Suck my balls?

I do not post and i admit i am a bit of a lurker here. I came here to be part of a community but i find it very hard to actually participate as i am very shy...yes, even behind a keyboard. i find it quite sad that you are having these thoughts about those who do not post as for me i find it is like being the shy lad in the playground that no one wants to know yet are always talked about. I guess i feel that i am not wanted here and believe it or not it is quite upsetting , i can see the points being made regarding socks etc. and i understand the need for something to be done, but please do not do anything at the expense of innocent people who just want to come here and feel part of something even though they are quiet and keep hidden.

Chaf.

Chafouin wrote:
You needn't worry, you have 5 more posts than the ones mentioned :p

I'll be quite open here chaf and say I don't believe you can have it both ways.
You cannot be a member of a community, yet not participate in that community.
That is voyeuristic and leaves everyone else to do the heavy work.
I feel quite upset that you are prepared to consume but not contribute.
Then virtually play a game of emotional blackmail to demand a seat at the table.

Oh I'm sure there will be some reading this who may be tutting at the moment but it takes little to no effort to post a link to a news story or share some music or a fun pic etc etc.

Roll your sleeves up please. Spread the load by carrying some yourself.

Chaf has 5posts and 9 thankyou's which is an achievement in itself tbqph lol.

Which proves he can do it if he bothers his ass to do so.

Chafouin wrote:
Firstly this thread was only intended for those who only ever lurk and never post. Glad it helped 'bring you out of your shell' if nothing else.

But we do want to know SZ members, that's the point! We can't know you if you don't post.

It is primarily a sock concern I suppose but it also brought the issue of non-posting members up, hence this thread which you offered no opinion on until the die were cast. There's where you can be a part of this community but as illustrated if you don't take an active part in it you can't then complain about decisions made by those that are more active.

andyh wrote:

Yeah!

Way to go Chaf, what's your secret?

chaf you're ok buddy. i love your monorail pussy.

Me anorl

its like your eyebrow was on a balcony

Fuck you

I have resisted thus far posting in this thread but I am in one of those moods so here is my take.

I feel that allowing ourselves to become too insular and distrusting of others means that we have allowed ourselves to be manipulated by those who have set out to do so.

I am a member on a few boards I am yet to make a post on. I sign up because I am interested in reading and 'getting to know' the place rather than jumping in straight away somewhere new which can at times feel intimidating. particularly on smaller, close knit boards where people have known each other for years.

My vote would be to not remove members until they break rules, not remove them because they might be someone else or because they are taking time to post a hello.

Then just create a rule that new joiners need to make a post within so many weeks or whatever and if they don't they get auto pruned.
Once they have made a post, even just 1 post then it no longer applies, simple as.

i cant remember a bunch of rules. i just know when people do something or something is up. it was my gift from jesus on christmas '89 for being a good boy and keeping quiet.

thoreau wrote: Please read below in the objective manner it was intended.

What do you then contribute to those communities that would justify you considering yourself a member?
How would the community be impoverished by your absence?
A googlebot or other web crawler at least has the potential to generate new contributors as a result of topic searches.
Any community which terminated your membership would not be excluding you from participation, you'd already elected to do that yourself.

There is a weakness here which is being exploited to the detriment of this community. It would be complacent not to address it.
If by addressing it hesitant or non-posting members were sparked into contributing then surely both the individual and the community benefit.

I personally take offence at individuals who want the benefit of membership but wont lift a finger to sustain or enhance things for anyone else.
That has one assured outcome. the community becomes another web ghost town.

there are plenty of forums out there which are DEAD cos nobody posts on them, the people that did post have given up cos nobody else could be bothered.

feather wrote:
most of the places i belong to but do not post yet on offer information and discussion of said information, sometimes i promulgate that information or share a cause that they are interested in with others who would not seek it out otherwise - signposting the source of the info etc. I guess that my act of joining rather than just reading is a desire to show some anonymous solidarity, or to give the opportunity to respond without a 24 hour wait if something really piques my interest.

i tend to view non posting members as potential posters rather than non contributors or socks in waiting.

i would rather have people feel part of a community even if they dont post than feel rejected or unwanted by being removed before they are ready or interested enough to post

i worry that we are reacting to the threat of socks and disruption that may well make the place appear exclusive rather than inclusive.

we have lost a lot of cool people or had previously cool posters go rogue to the point that the core membership has diminished greatly. which may be fine with peeps.

Thanks Feather, believe it or not you have opened my eyes and what you said is very true. I now understand that i do not add anything to sanctum zone and have been wasting your and my time. I wish everyone here all the very best for the future and hope one day everybody finds happiness.
Take Care all.
Chaf.

Chafouin wrote: If that was supposed to initiate a guilt trip in me it failed miserably.
You have posted more in this thread because it potentially effected you that you have since you joined in June 2012.

I doubt your time here was wasted, you were supplied with a daily buffet of fresh interesting, controversial, flippant or entertaining posts.
You object to there being a token bill for that. Bring a plate was all you had to do. That is evidently too high a price.