It further appears that Phem has departed upon principle. I hope he returns. Sometimes I get pretty fed up with online stuff and have to take a break.

I had a soft spot for her too but was extremely pissed off at what she said to kumatora and even more so when phem decided to go inactive over the situation.

I'd rather have both phem and kumatora here.

Oh, and I like the idea of discussing a ban and why it was issued. It's honest. Disclosure was sorely lacking on the DIF, I believe that's one of the biggest reasons a need for an alternate universe was needed.

Good job.

As Ronison said, it's honest and this is just how it should be. Think on the larger scale, id so called "leaders" would disclose what they're up to and ACTUALLY ask people what they want? If this would be true, we would have quite good world to live...

Can we all bully the fuck out of Phem now to get his ass back here?

feather wrote:
Its up to phem if he wants to return.

That being said, i was just contacted by him and im happy to tell you all that he asked for his account to be reactivated.

So welcome back phem

Sorry if im putting the spotlight on you buddy, but so many members wanted you back, i just wanted to tell them before they kept posting about bugging you to return even more!!

So welcome back phem

That being said, i was just contacted by him and im happy to tell you all that he asked for his account to be reactivated.

So welcome back phem

Sorry if im putting the spotlight on you buddy, but so many members wanted you back, i just wanted to tell them before they kept posting about bugging you to return even more!!

There's no pressure on you, Phem. We're just expecting your next post to be blindingly brilliant considering you've had a few days off to gather your thoughts!

Okay, so I guess it's my turn to address this situation.

So, yesterday I visited this forum, (before that, I had not visited the forum for like a day and a half or something) and as soon as I got here, I had a private message notification.

So, I clicked on it, and I had a message in my inbox from excession. I opened the PM and I got this:



One thing to keep in mind, is that I had not contacted her before she sent me this PM, at all. In other words, she just sent it out of the blue.

Now, maybe some of you are wondering what is so wrong about what she said there. For those that don't know, I'm mexican and one of the 'stereotypes' of mexicans is that we always work as service people (maids, etc) and/or in the field, among other things. I don't get offended easily, and I actually think that some "racist" jokes are funny, and this PM was, I admit, a bit offensive, but.. the problem with excession, is that this is not the first time that she does it to me.

She actually said some other stuff to me back at "that other place", and I was not happy about it. When that other incident happened, I had not even crossed words with her, ever, precisely cause I had seen the way she posted, and even though I'm obviously not a saint, I just didn't want to get 'caught' in a shitty situation with her.

Then, when I registered in the first incarnation of this forum, I read a post she made, where she said that she didn't like me because I made snide remarks about her after she went On Warning because of the incident over at "that other place", then I replied that yes, I was not happy about her racist comments that time, but that I was willing to forget that incident, and that this was a new start, and she agreed to it (I would link to that post, but I have no idea where it is now). I honestly had forgotten about the whole thing until I got this PM.

What I'm trying to understand, is why did she do this. Is it just shit stirring? Is it boredom? I heard that she had dealt with some tough situations in her life, and I understand that, but... does that justify someone's actions? I am honestly really confused. Now, I do understand that there's people that like her, and that is all good and dandy and I fully respect that, if she gets 'reactivated' I have no problem with that, either. I just want to know if she is gonna be like this most of the time so I know what to expect next time I get a 'surprise' PM when I visit the forum.